I have not been able to find the maiden name of Parmelia Vance, mother of James P. Vance of the 3rd Kentucky Mounted Infantry. She lived 1808-1847. Since her husband (and James' father) Andrew died in 1857 (he was born in 1805 in TN), James had been an orphan since he was 15.
I was discouraged by the fact that James had been wounded in the buttocks ("nates"), but came to the conclusion that he was involved in the countless charges across Duncan's Field and was probably shot once while being driven back. He was later captured, transported by boat to the Union hospital in Paducah, and died there of his wounds. I have been to Duncan's Field and walked across it following the direction of the charges agains the Hornets Nest. As I remember, there were like six or seven charges by the 3rd Kentucky across that field that Easter Sunday, culminating in the eventual successful one around 4 p.m.