Thanks again, Elmer, I appreciate it! There is a gravestone for William Duncan Chronister and wife Mary Ann which says that she died in 1867, but it also says that HE died in 1904 (at least according to the website transcription of the cemetery) and so I don't trust it, as I know he was alive and signing an affidavit for pension in 1913. Why he isn't found on the 1860 census, I can't figure....see no evidence that he ever left Missouri.
Very interesting that the soldiers actually went in person to Jacksonport...I have a McGee relation of my Cato cousins who was supposedly killed on the way back home "after the surrender".
Cynthia