In a claimant's affidavit by Ulysses dated 1891 he states that his father died a few days after he left Indiana to go to Missouri but he doesn't give a year. (dead end here)
I have a Julia Ann Frakes as married to Ira B. Marshall first and then to James Walker Shipman. I have this Julia as born 5-23-1853 in Lawrence Co. Missouri and in the 1860 Perry Co. In. census with BM Esarey.
This is a source for the headstone. Also note the different death date
Abishai Frakes, a private in H Company 4th Regiment Iowa Infantry is buried in a cemetery in Laclede, Missouri. He died Jan ?, 1869. His headstone was supplied by Sheldon and Sons, West Rutland, Vermont on contract dated August 21, 1888.
[Source: Card records of headstones provided for deceased Union Civil War veterans, 1878-1903, M1845, roll 7.]