When we hear an account of one person on the effect of their loss during one episode in the entire war one has to just understand that no matter what side they were on, each person counted. Everyone had a family somewhere. Everyone who came home from that war was changed in some way. I believe my GGGrandfather who was the most ardent of the "Yankee" despisers (and he did just that, despise them) was the one who spent time at Ft Delaware. He also lost a brother at Seven Pines, Pt Lookout and another died in a hospital in Richmond. From what information I've been able to find, that GGGrand lost the largest number of immediate family. Put that into perspective and it's not hard to understand why even an officer could be angry if he thought there could have been a different outcome.