Hard decisions are made in war. My gripe with Jeff Davis is the fact he shot General Nelson and the man unarmed. Now, I can understand that he was slapped by a man twice his size. However duelling was not unknown at that time. To my knowledge what was said in the argument is still not clear.
I know what you mean about family and guest around. My wife is enough to distract me. "You on the board again, James?". AWWWW.