I am just trying to convey that the citizen in Arlington, Virginia, at home, in his hotel, defending the Confederate flag from Col. Elmer Ellsworth died just as much a "battle death" to him as the soldier from North Carolina or Texas that died in the greatest battles of the War.

That Captain Marr died in a military engagement even if it was a "minor" engagement that wasn't big enough for your consideration, but he still died and his family still grieved.

I am tired of this "educated" notion that nothing happened during the War unless 10,000 men from both side were involved. Who came up with that stupid classification? By that classification the Battle of Big Bethel was a minor skirmish comparied to later engagement. So which battle is large enough to qualify as "combat"?

To me the War of Northern Aggression was a war to the grass roots in the south, there were no NON combatants in the south. That the child that died because its mother couldn't get medicine or food for it was just as much a casuality as the Generals of Pickets Charge at Gettysburg. That while "Officially" there were 650,000 deaths during the War that wore Uniforms, there were probably 2.5 million more, by some estimates, that didn't.

And mainly I am tired of east coast elitism that nothing happened anywhere else than in Virginia, althought I had 3 great grandfathers that fought in Lee's ANV. Two of them enlisted from South Carolina before North Carolina even seceeded. One never came home, dieing at Chickamauga. The other two were wounded severely, one of them 3 times and captured twice and send to POW camps. Yet both, that survived, still surrendered with Lee or were in Richmond still fighting at the end. And I take as much pride in their service as you do with anyone from North Carolina. So don't get on your high horse.

And as far as speling an grammmer errors go, tuff cookies, get over them.