Bill,
Here's some information I pulled off the Sons of the Confederate Veterans web site. Hope it helps.

Headstone Marker for Confederate Veterans

The Veterans Administration will provide a marker for your Confederate Veteran ancestor at no expense but you must apply for the marker. The marker can be a upright granite or marble headstone, a bronze flat marker, a bronze niche, or a flat granite or marble stone, depending on your choice.

The form you need, for ordering, is VA Form 40-1330 and it can be obtained from a local Veterans Administration Office. Many local funeral homes also have this form available. You can also call 1-800-827-1000 to request a form, or write the Office of Memorial Programs (403A), Department of Veterans Affairs, 810 Vermont Ave., N.W., Washington, DC 20420-0001. A copy of the form can also be downloaded from http://www.va.gov/vaforms/va/pdf/40-1330.pdf A website to learn more about the VA policies is: http://www.cem.va.gov/CEM/hm_hm.asp and "Pre-World War 1" (i.e. WBTS) link is http://www.cem.va.gov/cem/hm/hmcivil.asp with photographic samples.

The applicant may be anyone having knowledge of the deceased. The applicant must certify that the grave is unmarked or marked inappropriately (such as errors in the marker, damage to the marker, or deterioration of the marker which make it difficulty to identify the subject in the grave) and a Government headstone or marker is preferred to a privately purchased headstone or marker. This restriction also applies for companion markers, which identify two or more decedents buried, or to be buried, in the same or adjoining graves. A grave is considered marked if a monument displays the decedent’s name and date of birth and/or death, even though the veteran’s military data is not shown.

Any deceased veteran discharged under conditions other than dishonorable is eligible and that includes Confederate Veterans of the War Between the States. To expedite processing, attach a copy of the veteran’s proof of service. The stone or marker will be shipped within 70 days, after the VA receives the fully completed application with correct information. The stone or marker will be shipped to the consignee designated on Form 40-1330 at no cost. All costs for pick up and installation must be paid from private funds.