I came across your post while researching the lilley name. Arnett W. Lilley is also my grandfather. Don't know much about the family as I was raised by Arnetts first wife. Her name was leona. They had eight children. A.W. -Grace (my birth mother) -Earl -Bernice -Helen -Arnold -Douglas and Linda. What was your mothers name ?. Arnett was married at least three times and has children with his first and second wife. Hope this helps. Contact me back if you want.