BTW, I'm watching a program on History Channel about UFOs and Roswell. People believe what we want to believe.
In the middle of your post you mentioned. "It wasn't proper." Okay. Was it proper during the Civil War, but became unacceptable later? People seem to believe that the Southern people (and other Americans, for that matter) were all color-blind and freely accepted those of different cultures and races. Well, if that's true, shortly after the war attitudes took a sharp turn in another direction!