Miss Sally, you probably do have some anger. I don't blame you for that. The war was fought for all intents and purposes in the South. So I guess it's only natural that most Southerners would still think on it more than we in the North. However you have to remember it wasn't all damage to the boys in gray, how about my friend on the board Martin Carmack, his grandfather(in Eastern KY) was murder by boys in gray and his grandmother raped and one of their slaves killed also. Not a pleasant memory for him at all. History didn't go down well for a lot of vetreans on both sides, who could never lead a normal life after the war. But they struggled and kept the country going.