Ms. Bailey
I respect your viewpoint, however can I not say the same for Elizabeth Clithero Starr (who's husband Moses Fletcher Starr of the 116th OVI was shot and killed at Lynchburg) who would stand in the field looking east every evening waiting for her man to come home for 20 years because no one could tell her what happened to him, this after her younger brother disappeared never to be heard from again in 1861 and her older brother nearly died in a hospital in Maryland taking nearly 2 years to get home after the war?
The war WAS ghastly and yes it fashions emotions and political responses even today, e.g. why is affirmative action not racism or discrimination? I would hope that every student of the war takes time to ponder the individual like your forefather or Mrs Starr.
John R.